One thing I've always been taught, is you can do anything if you set your mind to it and a saying I will never forget is, "There's no such word as can't."
Obviously, we all know that there is the word 'can't' but it's a metaphorical saying, in that if someone tells you that you can't do something, show them that you can & prove them wrong.
Recently this mentality has definitely kept me going in everything I do. Besides the gym I do have somewhat of a life & enjoy other things - shopping days out, drinks with my best friends, playing my piano (not many people know that one!) or work. However, this phrase is definitely applied to my training more often than not!
In the last two weeks I've been doing some training with a PT at my gym & it's honestly through his help & inspiration that I've pushed myself so much more - to everything he challenged me with I kept saying "I can't do that, I honestly can't" and each time I did and it felt so good! Key phrase he tells me - "Mind over matter" - couldn't be more accurate.
Mindset is everything.
Goals
I like to set myself regular goals to keep a track & focus on where I want to be, I know a lot of people do the same but it's so easy to get lost in the midst of things.
If you know me, you'll know I'm a list & diary kinda person - don't go anywhere without my diary & have a to-do-list to hand ALWAYS. I'd be lost without it, but it's also my way of getting things done! Writing things down makes it less daunting & then I know I can get it all done in one day!
Apart from little things like that, obviously people have long term goals especially for fitness and with this, I know for a fact, achieving an image you're comfortable with is something a lot of girls especially strive for during summer. The "Bikini Bod". Well, reality check - chuck on a bikini & you've already achieved it.
Now look at yourself & instead of critiquing, think of improving. Bettering yourself is what you should strive for instead of something that you see on social media & never tell yourself you can't do anything. Because you can do anything you set your mind to. I never ever thought I could do one free weight pull up. Now, I do 3 sets of 5 (I know 5's not a 'full set' but it's a damn good way!)
Considering I shied away from the weights area completely before training back here, at home, this Summer I feel quite smug surrounding by bulking boys at 5ft 3in pulling my body weight. (Gloating a little yes - I'm really proud of this!)
For me, I absolutely LOVE proving people wrong & more importantly being right! So that's definitely motivation for me in everything I do!
When it comes to my training, proving right or wrong it's my motivation to better myself & a top tip if you're thinking of bettering yourself, is set yourself what you want to achieve. (Make lists, they're fun!) Then, decide how you're going to achieve that (Make a plan - training, meals, scheduling etc) Then do it, achieve it - tick it off your list! Keep repeating this process & I promise you'll see progress & feel so motivated because you're doing all the things you never thought you could!
Health, fitness & training as become more important to me recently for various reasons, so when one of my best friends Misha asked me to train her at the gym I was definitely up for it as she wanted some serious motivation..
After telling her what we had in store for our session, she looked point blank at me as if to say what on earth.
Without being a patronising friend, she did amazingly well & I'm SO proud of her! Every time she told me she couldn't I shouted at her and she finished off her set, she did everything I gave her & although I've heard from her today that I've "Killed off her arms" she proved herself wrong.
If you're lacking motivation at the gym get a friend to work through sets with you, challenge each other or if you're on your own challenge yourself, tell yourself you can do it and I promise you will.
Mish kept telling fibs that she couldn't do the workout, the reps, the weight but she did everything & sweat it out till her arms nearly fell off. Girls especially you're stronger & better than you think! Don't shy away like I used to at the gym, strut around and show them who's boss!
Whatever it is you want to achieve, why can't you? If someone tells you that you can't do something, prove them wrong. Besides feeling smug, you'll feel a sense of achievement that you did something someone doubted you on & use that to strive forward.
A lot of people lack motivation to carry on when training, especially if they're not seeing results - so I think this is a great way to prove that you're doing well. Instead of 10 reps, do 12 - you couldn't do that last time so you must be achieving something!
Another quote I've stuck by in the lat four weeks or so, "Don't focus on how far you've got to go, look at how far you've already come." I think it's so important to see what you've achieve & prove to yourself that you're better than what you think.
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I feel as though I've lost my spark a little recently, especially as I read this post back, but when life knocks you down get back up & prove that you're amazing & can do what they think you can't.
Lethargic, I know! However, especially when the weather's like this (Gloomy, rainy and miserable in Macclesfield ATM) I feel everyone needs a little inspo & Misha was mine yesterday, that spurred me to start writing again. Ben (PT at the Gym) is my motivation to train & proves me wrong all the time that I can do more.
The point I'm trying to make is, whether you're proving yourself or someone else wrong - never let someone tell you that you can't do something because you can honestly do anything if you really set your mind to it.
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